FILIPINAS DATING FOREIGNERS • 15 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW
#1) ALL FILIPINAS ARE GOLD DIGGERS: FALSE
There are certainly cultural boundaries for foreigners and Filipinas to leap when they decide to start a relationship. If things get serious enough, their families will meet someday.
These are the stereotypes that linger in society. Of course, not all Filipinas are gold diggers, but that’s not to say that a lot of them aren’t.
I’ve seen more than enough young Filipinas being spoiled by older men to know that there are a lot of gold diggers in the Philippines.
In the same breath, there are probably just as many gold diggers – if not more – in America. Gold diggers are everywhere, and naive men will always fall for their tricks.
#2) ALL FILIPINAS WANT A FOREIGN PASSPORT: FALSE
Men move to the Philippines to settle down with a Pinay. In a way, these men are doing the reverse of what a lot of Filipinas want. In my opinion, this is the way to do it because the Philippines is a beautiful country.
Now, on the other hand, there are a lot of Pinays looking for US Canadian, and UK passports. Trust me, there are women specifically targeting men in these countries for a ticket out of the country and a passport.
Foreign men who don’t carefully screen Filipinas – or put the time in to get to know them before committing – may later find that they got used by a cunning Filipina.
This is one of the main reasons why Perfect Unions Asia was set up to help couples avoid these types of common situations.
#3) ALL PINAYS ARE SWEET AND CARING: FALSE
Parts of Manila, e.g. Makati and BGC, are a stone’s throw away from becoming fully westernized. Since the advent of Instagram, Facebook, and westernization in Manila, this has changed a great deal.
Suddenly, they became what I was used to seeing in America. Are they all sour now? No, of course not. I’m not making any generalizations, I’m simply sharing my observations.
My advice is to look outside of the most Westernized parts of the Philippines for more traditional Filipinas who haven’t been as negatively impacted by Western culture.
#4) ALL PINAYS ARE EASY: FALSE
Long gone are the days when a foreign guy could simply show up in the Philippines and attract attention from model-hot Filipinas. Foreigners need to bring more to the table these days.
Every foreign guy who travels to the Philippines thinks he’s the king of the Philippines by the time he leaves because he slept with a few girls. Little did he know that these same girls slept with many foreigners before him and would sleep with many more after him.
Top-tier Filipinas are stunningly gorgeous and not easy. You need to bring your A-game and have more than the change in your bank account to score a trophy in major Filipino cities.
Gorgeous Pinays are living in off-the-beaten-path locations and have no clue how hot they are.
During my first trip to the Philippines in 2008, I ventured off the beaten path and got a true taste of Heaven on Earth as an average man.
#5) FILIPINAS PREFER FOREIGNERS OVER FILIPINOS: FALSE
Foreign men are under the impression that Filipinas prefer them over Filipinos. This is 100% untrue.
A lot of Filipinas I met had been hurt by a Filipino boyfriend. In other words, a lot of Filipinas seek foreign men because their Filipino boyfriends cheated on them or broke their hearts. They fail to see the reality of the situation because they don’t know any better.
There’s a huge difference between the foreigner who’s been in the Philippines for a few years and the one who just landed there. When I reflect, I see both versions of myself from the past.
#6) FILIPINAS DATE FOREIGNERS TO FEEL ENTITLED: TRUE
This point is probably the most controversial on the list and my favorite. Filipinas love social media and Western TV, especially trashy reality TV. When they see enough of this stuff online and on TV, they want to be it.
One way for them to become what they see on TV is to find a foreign boyfriend who’s like what they see online and on TV. Then, once they do, they suddenly have this look at me, I made it type of vibe going on that’s frighteningly unattractive.
You’ll often see this type of Pinay decked out in name-brand US clothing walking around with a clueless foreign boyfriend. She’s got her arm through his arm dragging him around the mall like a dog to show him off.
When they go out to the store, she talks louder (whether subconsciously or consciously) to draw attention to what she’s got going on. This type of activity is becoming more prevalent in the most westernized parts of the Philippines.
#7) A FILIPINA/FOREIGNER RELATIONSHIP GETS WEIRD: TRUE
As I mentioned in the introduction, Filipinas – and Asian women in general – can get weird in certain situations.
For example, I’ve noticed while dating Filipinas, that they act strangely when they go outside and get around other mixed couples. I believe that psychologically they begin comparing their situations to the other Filipinas who netted a foreign boyfriend or husband.
What I’ve noticed is they act more affectionate and caring in this type of situation. It’s almost as if they want to outshine the other Filipinas with foreign boyfriends in the room.
#8) FILIPINAS ASSUME FOREIGNERS HAVE MONEY: TRUE
Through no fault of their own, Filipinas are trained to believe that all foreign men have money. When a belief is so deeply ingrained in someone’s head, it’s nearly impossible for them not to think about it.
When Filipinos and Filipinas see foreigners, they see dollar signs. I’ve traveled all over, and this happens everywhere, not just in the Philippines.
What’s important to know is the disparity between the lower and upper classes in the Philippines. There are slums directly next to modern high-rise buildings.
The Philippines is also extremely densely populated with a significantly larger lower class. Unless a foreign guy is specifically targeting an upper-class Filipina, there’s a good chance the Filipina is with him for the money.
Lastly, a foreign guy doesn’t need to be rich in his home country to be “rich” in the Philippines. A small income in the Western world is more than enough to get by in most parts of the Philippines.
Even a meager income in the West is adequate to attract a Filipina who wants to get out of her current living situation by dating a foreigner.
#9) FILIPINAS USE FOREIGNERS: TRUE
Some, Filipinas are clever women who know how to spot a mark. There are too many schemes going on in the Philippines designed to bait foreigners to list here.
I’ve walked miles and miles around the Philippines. During my strolls, I observed more than enough activity to conclude. There are instances where Filipina women are clearly using foreign men.
Now, digging deeper into this type of relationship, there are foreign men who don’t care about being used as long as the Filipina is giving them what they desire.
In reality, there are foreign men and Filipinas using each other. Call it empty or what you will, but this does happen, and it’s common.
#10) MOST FILIPINA/FOREIGNER RELATIONSHIPS DON’T END WELL: TRUE
Some Filipinas dating foreigners typically doesn’t end well. In the world that we live in today, traditional love is all but dead. Once a foreigner gets a taste of dating a Filipina and realizes how many Filipinas are available to date, he’ll most likely cheat on his Filipina girlfriend.
The same can happen to the guy as well. With dating sites and apps available, both foreigners and Filipinas use, it’s easy for either party to find a quick score. People are far from perfect, and feelings inevitably fade.
Romance is always fun at the beginning, but what happens between a foreigner and a Filipina once reality starts to set in?
After the guy or girl does one thing wrong, they can jump on a phone app and relive that high of meeting a Filipina or foreign guy for the first time.
#11) MOST FILIPINA/FOREIGNER RELATIONSHIPS DON’T END WELL: TRUE
This is one of the main reasons why Perfect Unions Asia was set up to help couples avoid these types of common situations.